Definitely not a 20s guide

I am 20 years old, which apparently means that I am a new born adult. My first birthday is approaching and I don't think I have ever been so stressed out in my entire life. I wish there was a manual to navigate becoming an adult, but all we have is TikTok videos of 30 year olds telling us, "10 Things I wish I knew in my 20's". From the looks of those videos why do I feel like my 30's are going to be better than my 20's. Entering the first 10 years of being an adult there is so much unknown. I guess life in general is full of unknowns and that is the beauty of the journey. Recently every decision I have ever made has officially been questioned. The constant wonder if I would do things differently if I could go back in time. Now-a-days I think we have so much more access to everyone's daily life which is putting a lot of pressure on the future. Back in the day you were never able to just open your phone and look up day in the life of a doctor or day in the life of a coffee shop owner. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. It’s hard to not get caught up in wishing you were in a different season of life or that you had a different job. Anxiety is a very normal thing but if it is not taken a handle of it can truly suck you in and make you so completely stuck. There have been so many times where I have been so caught up in my thoughts that I become so stressed out I just feel frozen. When I don’t know my next steps this is when I am focusing on the past or the future rather than the present. God is most accessible and present in the present time. The Devil does not want us to focus on the present because that is where God is, he works hard to keep us in the past and the future dwelling on regret and fear. Fear of the unknown, but the beauty of trusting in God's plan is that all we have to do is take a step and trusting in his plan for you. We may not see whatever that plan may be but I can guarantee you that it is better than whatever future we have created for ourselves. Trust me I understand how challenging it can be to trust that there is something out there for you and you are meant for something more. Whether you're in your 20’s,30's, wherever you are in life, enjoy the journey, get out of the house, meet new people, compliment someone. My birthday is in one more month and I will officially be a one year old adult. If I have learned one thing from my one year as an adult its this. No one really has it figured out. No matter how their life might look through your phone, everyone is struggling with something. Everyone is truly just figuring it out day by day. We are meant to create meaningful connections with others to help us learn and navigate life. Everything will be okay, you just have to have a little faith. 

We all have heard of the saying, “The world is your oyster”, but the other day I heard someone say it a little different. They said, The world is your oyster, but the world is your oyster. Hearing it said twice like this completely changed my perspective. 

I constantly hear people say this but I heard someone say it like this the other day and it completely changed the way I thought about it. What is so amazing about this one life that we have is that we can do absolutely anything we want. The world is your oyster. But, at the same time you can literally do anything you want and everything you decide will lead you somewhere else, because the world is literally your oyster. I might be delusional but this has altered my brain chemistry… but in a good way. I can, you can, we can genuinely do whatever your heart desires as long as your willing to put in the work. You can make anything happen. 

As I am approaching my 21st Birthday I have come to realize I have absolutely no idea what I am doing! I never stop thinking of what it is that I really want to do.... My problem is that I want to do everything. I genuinely want to be able to try everything and this is what makes it so challenging to find what it is exactly that I want to pursue.

I also don't think I am the only one. I get the feeling that there is no age where you truly "know" what you're doing. 

Cheers to today! Because everyday is a blessing and we are all just trying to figure it out:)